Few things aid in the celebration of the life of a 93-year-old family staple like that of a well-crafted, perfectly timed gift of a commemorative DDPP playlist. I attended Sunday DDPP on Dec. 3, distraught from the fresh news of the day; that my Great Aunt Narn had gracefully shuffled off this mortal coil. It seems that in the brief Den Mother huddle/hug outside, describing Narn’s unorthodox and long life, DJ Hotdish silently began to collect her mental playlist based on her impressions and interpretations.
Narn…there is so much to say about that sassy, fashionable, self-spoiling, never apologizing, spitfire. The never married, childless, world-traveling career woman literally did not have time to worry about what the rest of the world thought about her. I’m not saying she was thoughtless, but she was bulletproof. The vulgarity that fell from her perfectly painted mouth while airing grievances, directly followed by her full throttle, belly laugh, never failed to entertain me. When I, in my mid 20s, never married, childless, listless, asked her if she ever regretted not having a family, there was no pause in her reply of, “OH NO!” When I moved to Chicago with no job, no friends, and no knowledge of this city 12 years ago, she called me her hero. And at 93-years-old, still living in her own home, when my mom called her and asked her what she was doing, Narn told her, calmly, that she was sitting at her table, waiting to die. The next morning when she didn’t answer the phone, she was found, having never left the table. She wasn’t being dramatic. She had decided to pass away. This women who was completely in control of her environment for over 9 decades, who collected a pension for 31 years after retirement, who was always there for my father, aunt and uncle during times good and bad times, the first person to send us a birthday and Christmas card each and every year, who’s favorite show on Netflix was Breaking Bad, is gone. When she sailed through her 80s with minimal trips to the doctor, multiple trips to the beach and keys to her car, it seems as if she just might have figured out how to beat the game of death. The news came almost as shocking as learning that a person died in their 20s. Almost.
I realized after she was gone that she is the reason that I, now at 42, never married, childless, still somewhat listless, felt my lifestyle is normal. The societal norms and labels were not a factor in my life. The expectations for reaching milestone ages and falling in line with others has never occurred to me. She might have just paved my way. And I didn’t know. And I didn’t get a chance to thank her. I didn’t get into a deep conversation explaining that we were, in fact, each other’s heroes when I spoke with her that final time on my lunch break. This past Christmas, I left her name on the cookie/card list and kept a space for her first Christmas card, by default. I am so grateful for her and for the fierce, thoughtful, independent and dedicated ladies of DDPP. And I thank you for having a dance with and for her. Thank you, DJ Hotdish. Narn would have been quite fascinated with us all.
If you care to read, Narn composed her own obituary, so people could read her hand-picked highlights:
Margie R. Hahn, 93, of New Brighton, passed away peacefully in her sleep, at home, on Sunday, December 3, 2017.
Born August 26, 1924, in New Brighton, a daughter of the late Frank and Emma (Hill) Hahn, Beaver Falls. She was a 1942 graduate of Beaver Falls High School, attended Garfield Business School, evening classes and other computer and programming classes.
Upon her retirement in 1986, she had almost 43 years of service and a perfect attendance record with Babcock & Wilcox Tubular Products Co., in the Accounting & MIS Departments.
She was a 56-year plus member of the New Brighton United Methodist Church, serving on the Administrative Board, Trustees, Finance and other committees as secretary.
Margie was a past member of the New Brighton Century Club, serving in all the offices, past member of the New Brighton Historical Society, serving as treasurer and a senior member of the Beaver County Historical Research & Landmarks Foundation and past associate member of the Merrick Art Gallery. She was also a member of the Beaver Falls B.P.O.E. #348 Ladies Social Auxiliary, serving as secretary and treasurer. A past member of the CCC Bowling League, Ellwood City, she was a charter member of the Rolling Stones Golf Course League and past member of the Blackhawk Ladies Mini Golf League; she served in all the offices of the three golf leagues.
Through the years, Margie enjoyed her many vacation trips to Russia, Israel, Portugal, Spain, Greece, Italy, Egypt, Mexico and many more to California to visit her brother and family.
She was preceded in death by a brother and sister-in-law, Richard Mary (Park) Hahn, Apple Valley, Calif., and a sister and brother-in-law, Virginia (Hahn) and Kronie Kruzic, East Palestine, Ohio.
She is survived by three nephews, Lance P. Kruzic, Irwin, Pa.; Jeffrey L. Kruzic and Nancy Harhai, Hunker, Pa., and Richard C. “Rickey” Hahn, Apple Valley, Calif.; three nieces, Paula (Kruzic) Yorke and Brian, Beaver Falls, Jackie Evancho Kruzic, Irwin, Pa., and Sheryl (Hahn) Leasher, Apple Valley, Calif.; great nieces and nephews, Courtney Kruzic, Illinois; Kelsey Yorke, Prague, Czech Republic, and Alex Yorke, Beaver Falls, and several more in California.